As seen in many Korean dramas, the theme of love is romanticized and rendered so lovely that you can't help but envy the characters for finding their one and only one soul mate.
Is it the same in reality?
Well from my experience the feeling of falling in love or having a crush on someone is intoxicating.
When you fall in love with someone, you feel a lot of the following feelings:
- Exhilaration
- Thrill
- Excitement
- Happiness
- Nervousness
- self-consciousness
- uncertainty
- Obsession
I think it's almost like being on drugs.
You can't help but think about the person all day and even when you try to forget that person, he/she always crops into your mind for at least a few minutes.
Some people are more bold when it comes to love. They are full of confidence in expressing their affection to the person they love and confess easily.
Whereas other people are uncertain on how to act in front of their crush.
This 'uncertainty' can be translated into questions like these:
Should I act cool and calm like usual or should I be more talkative and smile more when I am around him/her?
What if that person doesn't like me back? Then it's just a one-sided love...?
What if he/she already has someone they like? Should I just give up?
Well all kind of questions pop up in your mind and it makes you so self-conscious and aware of that person.
Love can even make you feel down and irritated at times because of the lack of response from your crush or because of your cowardice to take the first step.
No matter how tough you may be, being in love makes you a very vulnerable person to the words & actions of the one you love. With just one word or action from your crush you might feel gloomy, desolate and keep on pondering on what you should do.
I guess these are the downsides of falling in love.
But still, the bright side of falling in love is the exhilaration, excitement and happiness it brings to you.
Just a smile, a nod or a short conversation with your crush, can make you feel happy.
Falling in love with someone, does bring happiness to one's life and body.
To your body because, when you are in love, the happiness-chemical called dopamine increases in your brain and makes you feel happiness.
Love can even influence a person to change himself/herself for the better or worst...well depending on his/her crush's interests.
For instance if you like someone who is fashionable, you might start taking more interest in fashion and try to dress better.
If you like someone whose hobby is photography, you might start to take an interest in it too.
You start to take interest in what that person likes so that you can have more things in common.
However, like anything good has its end, the feeling of romantic love can also dissipate and lose its spark with time. For instance, the thrill and exhilaration you initially had when meeting your crush can either fade or decrease with time as you get to know each other more.
In this case love has evolved to simply attachment & familiarity with the person you have fallen in love with.
I would add that falling in love is an adventure or a roller-coaster with many high and low moments, just like the mere feeling of existing & living provides.
Falling in love is simply part of being alive.
I hope you enjoyed my article and I would be glad to hear more about your own experiences and opinions about 'falling in love' :)
I am also sharing some songs related to this theme ^^
Cheers!!
Ciao ciao
Alice
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